- Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for all your perceived faults, mistakes, failures and flaws. You are human, and like me, you will make mistakes. It’s a natural part of life, don’t try to avoid it, and don’t berate yourself for it. Accept yourself as you are, then forgive yourself. - Be kind to yourself.
Don’t say things to yourself you wouldn’t say to a small child. - Don’t bully yourself or be mean to yourself.
We all hate bullies, we tell others to stand up to bullies, but we forget to also apply that same advice to ourselves. - Set more realistic goals.
Don’t try to be perfect, otherwise you will just always set yourself up for failure. Having an unachievable goal will only make you feel like you are constantly failing, no matter how well you do.
- Make a list of all your SUCCESSES and ACHIEVEMENTS.
You can add anything, a great meal you cooked last night, organising a lovely day out with friends that you all enjoyed, helping a cat out of a tree, add anything and everything. Make the list as long as possible. Go back to it and add more things every week. - Write down one thing you are afraid of, then write a positive affirmation to fight it with.
For example, I often worry I am fat, I know that I am not, but I still fear it. So my positive affirmation to fight that fear is “I am beautiful. My body is amazing, strong, healthy and perfect. I love my body. It is the best body I could have asked for.” - Set aside a time of day to repeat your affirmation to yourself.
I use the HABIT app to remind me to take a few moments for deliberate positive thinking. In fact, I do this every morning on my way into work. I close my eyes, relax my body, and repeat my affirmations to myself silently. You can also do this before going to bed, going to bed with positive thoughts in your head is always a good thing.
